How to Teach Kids to read in 2020+ Chapter 3

3 – Where Is The Red Thread?

Everyone has an agenda and our children are exposed to multiple agendas every day. Not just about what to write on the schedule, but also about values. And to do so in a more successful manner we need to acknowledge each other’s plans and goals on behalf of the children.

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There is sometimes a tendency of parents and schools having trouble with discipline because they, in my opinion, do not fully acknowledge the authority of each other.
There is also a lot of talking in the public debate about parents who should take more responsibility.

In the same time, political family programs are funded by millions to prevent parents from using social control. A program out of many others, that is pushed into the curriculum where teachers and the personnel around the children are taught to bring this into the planning of their daily work.

Beside this every teacher has an agenda, a method and a goal and the parents have a plan and goals for their family. When taking this into consideration it becomes almost needless to say or even explain what is wrong and what is needed. I will, however, make a few points around this.

The children are surrounded by chaos and for those restless kids, it is actually no wonder they have a very hard time focusing and finding the right motivation. This is just another dimension of the safe zone, that we can expand.

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Common Understanding

If the parent doesn’t trust or understand the teacher’s values and the teachers don’t recognize or understand the parents, then they are both doing the same job in different ways and thereby confusing the child.

Instead of working together where the parents trust the teacher’s intention and follow the guidelines and the teacher understand that ex. the child was raised from home and know right from wrong, so there is no need for them to start over every time there is a new teacher or learning situation.

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There needs to be one plan around the child that is fundamental. And that should be in my humblest suggestion, The Child. This is not the case anywhere today and it is a shame because it is the most powerful resources to use when building any skills.

The need to learn and progress. The need to plan and fulfil such a plan about themself. We need to build common strategies and show the kids how we work as a team around them to make their project about themself a success.

The child should not be burdened with who’s rules they should follow now and next lesson or at home, but there should be one set of rules, or few simple rules, developed over time in cooperation between the parents and teachers. The teachers should likewise have the same set of rules and procedures when any lesson begins.

There has to be a red thread in the childs daily life, during the week and throughout the year. It has to make sense of what we are doing and why. And we could save so much valuable learning time in a much more stable environment in the child’s mind without confusion. Which also is one of the many obstacles we need to clear from the plate so we can focus on learning the basics first and foremost.

Values And Conversation

Even if we seem to have different sets of values on how to behave or believe, or how to gain knowledge. How to talk to each other and at what level we respect each other. What language and examples are we using? I’m not talking about nation wise language, I’m talking about our social language, private language and body language.

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When those differences are to be welcomed, valued and taken as an experience, we can see that we are not that different at all. We are just seeing the same situation from each our point of view and each point is an important part of the child’s bigger picture of themself.

How to do this in a simple manner is to start at the conversation with the child about their learning process. From the beginning of the conversations with the parents, those frames are set up and a new story for the child begins where they are the main characters and heroes. Then we as adults can each have our role in their life and we should assist each other much more in doing so.

Have you also experienced that students are confused and forget what they have learned? Share your experience and feel free to write your opinion or comment in the comments section at the bottom of the page.

From the beginning of the conversations with the parents, those frames are set up and a new story for the child begins where they are the main characters and heroes.

Helene Larsen

Read Chapter 1 and the Foreword Here!

Read chapter 2 Here! – From Danger Zones To Safe Zones

Read more about the book here

Watching and participating in changing the world to a better place, just by reading and learning is very powerful. Whenever someone is reading and gaining knowledge they are improving not only themself but also their loved ones and the whole society around them.


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